Monday, December 6, 2010

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Top 5 Reasons for BreakUps

Here are the five most common factors that I have found that seem to lie at the root of most arguments, disagreements and divorces:

1. A lack of commitment on the part of one or both people in the relationship. In other words there is only partial or a half commitment to the relationship. It's when the partners say something like, "I'll go half way and you half way," and as soon as one party decides to go less than 50 percent a split usually opens up in the relationship, which usually grows wider over time.

2. Trying to change the other person is another common reason for relationships breaking up. When you try to change another person or expect the other person to change it is simply another form of rejection. It's another way of one partner saying to the other, "You're not good enough for me." Whenever you try to change another person you are implying that he or she is not good enough for you and you trigger a feelings of anger and resentment in that person.

3. Another common reason for the break-up of relationships is jealousy. Jealousy is always experienced in the mind and heart of the person feeling the emotion. It is an emotion that rises from a feeling of low self-esteem and feelings of personal inferiority. The person who feels jealous in a relationship feels that no one could ever love him or her for being the kind of person that he or she is.

4. Self-Pity or feeling sorry for something that your partner has either done or not done to or for you is a often found as a reason for relationships breaking-up. Often people will experience self-pity because their partner will be so busy or happy with his or her own work or career that the person experiencing the self-pity feels left out.

5. Negative expectations are a common cause for relationships breaking up. This is when you expect your partner to do something to disappoint you. In life our expectations either positive or negative tend to be fulfilled. The most important words you can ever say to your partner or spouse are "I love you" and "I believe in you."

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

10 Tips on How to Lie :\

1) A lie is a lie is a lie... You lie to 1 person, you must carry that lie to any and all people connected to that individual.

2) You dont need a poker face to be successful. Try NOT being serious. Joking within your lying.

3) Remember your lies. WIthhold them and uphold them until the end of time.

4) Look into the person's eyes when you lie. This is key.

5) Offer alibis. Tell your closest friends what you are lying about so they can cover for you even if there is the slightest of chance they will be involved

6) Surround your lie with truths

7) Don't lie often so your word is more viable.

8) Develop a habit for taking the blame on minor things and don't fight/argue over minor stuff... In return, things you do create an issue over will be taken much more serious.

9) Don't shy away from the lying topic at hand. Make the other person change the topic. Showcase your comfort and security in talking about it.

10) DON'T lie to those who Know you Best !!!

Friday, November 12, 2010

A Night...

I don’t usually get nervous
And I know these butterflies could careless
But what if
We just
Well I guess
What I’m attempting to say is
A night on the town, Can I show you
And take u
To a restaurant that u never been to
And prove to you
My worth is more than..
a match
just sit back
While I light this candle
Let me handle
And maneuver
Every turn the night will take
I promise to make
Or mold
A night
Sure to unfold
As unforgettable.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010


Because not everyone was always allowed to do so.

Because your opinion Counts.

Because it is your Right.

Because it Matters.

Because you Can.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Fight For Freedom!

Come One! Come All! Come line up to serve your nation and fight for freedom!

Honestly, I feel there are grounds in which one could sew for false advertisement. I am an individual that has great respect for the men and women who serve our country, lets let that be known. But seriously here, the idea of fighting for freedom? It just isnt feasible in any context of reality one may live in. In short: Freedom does not exist. As long as there are other human beings within your ecosystem freedom is just a word missed used more than the word love. Laws, hierarchies, and limitations exist throughout every single realm of the word. Even the simple judgment from another individual limits the idea of true freedom to someone else.

Freedom can only be sought in one realm. Dreams. But as our soldiers sign up, they're not fighting for dreams, there fighting for greed, for political strategy, for social justice, or for profit. The message needs to change. The American people need to stop being lied to. I believe we are undermined in our ability to understand the extremities of certain situations. Matter of fact, I believe it is the limited information that we are told that forces us to be more narrow minded and less understanding of why our brothers and sisters are sent off to fight in wars. I love my country, for wrong and for right. I just believe the government should put a little more faith into its people that it serves.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Art of Capital

I think we can all be millionaires.
Seriously I dont think its all that hard. Its not luck, its not education level, it is not dependant solely or mainly upon networking or knowing the right people. The way I see it, its all dependent upon the amount of knowledge and wisdom you hold and matching that with that right amount of pure desire. You cant get hired to so a job unless you know how to do it.. right? Well seems the same philosophy stands for money. You can make and gain capital unless you know about it and how it works and how to work it. Learn this, comprehend it, and become knowledgeable and wise about it and the road to become a millionaire is all but mere waiting came from there.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Black Men Dating Outside Own Race..

New Theory:

On a subconscious level, some Black men date outside of their own race due to what they feel resides a 'lack of competition.'

Key word "some." And I would like to add that maybe a similar reasoning can exist with some black women..?

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Defining Love Part 4

The Story of Defining Love

Love conquers all…

Because love is all. It embodies everything: emotions, physical, spiritual, mental, blood, sweat, tears, pain, happiness, effort, desire, lust, stupidity, logic, stability, insanity, etc. Love can overcome and conquer anything and everything because it is made up of all elements.

If you have true Love, you have everything you will ever need to overcome all that life shall throw in your path.

Too be continued…

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Defining Love Part 3

The Story of Defining Love

Love is Blinding...

So it is said. However, I beg to differ. Thinking you are in Love is Blinding. More than a blind fold, covering your ears just as well as your eyes, it proves time and time again to be all too overwhelming for anyone individual to overcome alone.
“Nope, see when we have kids, I’ll probably take a year off of work to be with the baby. Oh, I really hope they have his eyes!” She always spoke in terms of the future tense.

She was young. He was young. They still had so much to learn about themselves as individuals, but yet she was all too focused on the destination, she had put forth little thought on the journey. She was blinded to the roads that lay just beneath her feet, mustering all her might to only see that which she felt was her… their… ultimate fate; A life together.

True Love is understanding. It is equip with a sight more keen than that of an eagle’s, allowing one to see all obstacles that lie in front and the comprehension that a fork may lie in one’s path at times deviating them from the roads in which they travel. Love is so much more than a feeling, but it is a reality as well and a commitment on top of that. Part of True Love allowing unhindered range in sight, is being able to see, realize, and admit your level of self knowledge. If you need to deviate onto an alternate road to learn, experience, explore more of the realm of “You”, it doesn’t not mean you don’t love that other individual.

The girl who inspired this segment didn’t know that. When her boyfriend told her he needed to travel the world, she didn’t understand why. When her boyfriend told her he needed to join the military to test himself, she thought he was running away. When her boyfriend told her he would always be there for her, she thought he had already left her. She thought she was in love. He knew he was.

Love does not limit the individual.

Too be continued…

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Defining Love Part 2

The Story of Defining Love
Amidst mid stroke he stopped. “I love you.” He said the words as if they had been brewing on his mind for ages. But really what he meant was “I have a justly irreplaceable lust for your physical presence.” He really did love her though. So he thought anyway. What he failed to realize is that he had fallen in love with her presence. Merely just one aspect. Like taking a bite into a burger and just merely saying ‘I love the onions.’

Her eyes rose slowly from his chest to his chin, settling upon his eyes. “Baby, I love you too.” For her, she truly had lingered with the thought on prior occasions. She too believed she loved him. All of him. He made her laugh, he was smart, ambitious, handsome, and treated her well. McDreamy compared to her past relationships. But… is a love by comparison a true love?

The pair shared a moment they would never forget. Such a brief moment. Known to them then as enchanting. Understood by them later as a lesson learned.
On the road to defining love, we must first understand that love encompasses many facets. Without love for each facet: Body, mind, soul, spirit, behaviors, habits, history, future, present; True love cannot exist. Think of love as a self sustained ecosystem. All elements must be intact for it to exist, survive, and thrive.
True love is neither a portion nor a comparison.

To be Continued…

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Defining Love Part 1

The Story of Defining Love

Surely the idea and act of love didn’t pop out of thin air. Or did it? What is the history of Love, I mean to define something without knowing its history and its true origins is seemingly kind of irrational; but then again, that’s what we do with religion every day. But let me stray from stepping on any toes, and allow me to jump back on to the topic of defining love.

Love I know can be defined. There exist different ways to express and showcase love, but reality shows that there are shared common roots and characteristics of love.. True Love.

To Be Continued...

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Painful Reality

As I lean back in my thoughts,
emotions flow'n through my heart
Logicality missing from my mind.
Im losing stability with no rhyme,
Or reason….
Or method to my sadness.
Someone tell me what the truth is,
Pain is only temporary
Tell me if this has been proven
Cause my pain sho' aint leavin.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Theory of a Woman's Touch


Females who do not masturbate/sexually self please themselves, are more likely to be unfaithful in long distant "committed" relationships, in comparison to those who regularly or even semi regularly "please" themselves.

What do you think?

Friday, June 18, 2010

"In July"

This verse start’s as my sniper hits they mark
And your guards fall down from a rifle to the heart
Like, clap, clap, let em fall slow
I know you had your fears, you can let em all go


Thursday, April 15, 2010

Man's Emotional Wall

Women everywhere want to know.. “Why don’t men talk about their feelings?” It’s an age old question that the fairer sex has not quite yet been able to figure out. Truth be told ladies, you haven’t even gotten close. You try so hard and dig so deep, but yet the answer (although some may find it superficial) lies at the surface. A man is not allowed to show and/or express his feelings & emotions because society deems it a non-masculine trait. Picture society as this over pompous puppeteer, dictating how a “Man”, the stereotypical all mighty, never wavering, always secure and confident man should act, live, and evidently how close he is able to emotionally confide in his Lady counterpart.

Men find it nearly impossible at times to break away from these strings. This begins at birth, by the time he finds himself in the midst of a quality relationship, its a rap, it has become a subconscious characteristic. And just so that you don’t think men are using society as a scapegoat, there is an additional culprit: the Corpus Callosum. It’s the part of the brain which connects the left and right brain hemisphere. Staying away from the confusing scientifics of it all -but the gist is that this part of the brain is larger in women than in men. The result is that women can think and feel at the same time [i.e. often leading to emotional irrationality, but I digress], while men naturally separate their feelings from what they are thinking. This creates mans reluctance to talk about all that lovey dovey stuff that women love to hash out.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Life of a Sex Addict

Addict – Defined as; someone who is physiologically dependent on a substance; abrupt deprivation of the substance produces withdrawal symptoms.

But NAWW we’re not DEPENDENT on sex :/ And we most certainly don’t experience WITHDRAW symptoms :\

Oh the lies we tell ourselves. Welcome, my name is Truth. I am that ugly side that stares you dead in your face only when you are strong enough, stupid enough, or confident enough to stand in from of a vacant mirror. I, like many of you, am no addict. Addicts are those who developed over zealous habits of drug use, alcohol intake, or OCD cases. Those people are addicts. Right?

So at this point it is important to understand who you’re trying to convince. Please, keep your excuses away from my ears cause I have heard it all. Chances are, if you’re reading this we have either A) had sex B) will have sex C) Are linked through the great vine sexually. Sex is a drug point blank. We put such a major emphasis upon sex in and outside of our relationships that it has grown to become this deity that we NEED in order to sustain ourselves as individuals or to sustain us within our relationships. We seek acceptance through sex, we seek to attempt to secure our partner by quickly engaging in sex, we seek fun and entertainment through sex, and we somehow have grown to believe that the word relationship is synonymous with sex.

I drank on average about once a week. I have gone months at times without drinking for one reason or another, and neither of these times have I felt physically or mentally “different” as if to be missing the act of drinking alcohol. But if I go months without engaging in sexual activities, I grow anxious. I steadily miss it, and slowly grow in my desire to have it. Whether it is with someone I am currently in a relationship with or with a new partner, my thoughts become drawn to the idea of having sex once again. The degree of these “feelings” vary from person to person, but fact is most of us share this commonality. Welcome to the world of being an Addict. The subtly is neither here nor there. The fact is that we experience some sort of withdraw symptoms and our minds become increasingly wrapped around the idea of having sex once more.

Still in denial? Well then you might just have more than the problem of being an addict on your hand.